Jan
11
DO YOU THINK IT'S WRONG FOR SOMEONE TO CONTINUE BEING ACTIVE ON DATING/SEX SITES WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP?
Bysquaregirl30 asked:
My beloved continues to revisit these sites, even after I told him it bothers me. He doesn't have on his profiles which he's taken, in a relationship, nothing. He says he's not articulate to anyone, only looking. I suspicion that's what porn was for. I got unequivocally dissapoint final week and reacted really bad to this. He's insane at me right away for removing upset. I think he's some-more in the wrong - afterall it's what he's you do that's upsetting me. I'm not certain how to hoop this one.
My beloved continues to revisit these sites, even after I told him it bothers me. He doesn't have on his profiles which he's taken, in a relationship, nothing. He says he's not articulate to anyone, only looking. I suspicion that's what porn was for. I got unequivocally dissapoint final week and reacted really bad to this. He's insane at me right away for removing upset. I think he's some-more in the wrong - afterall it's what he's you do that's upsetting me. I'm not certain how to hoop this one.
26 Comments
January 12th, 2011 at 12:26 am
Yes, it's cheating. If he doesn't value your opinion, and still goes on hurting you once he knows your feelings, he's of no value to you!
January 13th, 2011 at 10:01 am
I think what he is doing is wrong. You don't have to put up with it. Leave.
January 14th, 2011 at 7:16 pm
I have to agree with you it is wrong
January 16th, 2011 at 4:37 am
you are totally right
January 17th, 2011 at 5:26 am
You have every right to be upset. He has you so what is he looking for? If he doesn't understand what he is doing is wrong, he has issues and you may need to move on. There are plenty of guys out there that will treat you with the respect you deserve.
January 20th, 2011 at 6:20 am
I personally think it is wrong.. becasue he is cheating in the mind… I think you should talk to him AGAIN..lol and try to come to a conclusion and if not figure out if he really is the one.
January 23rd, 2011 at 1:12 am
he should not be on there when he is taken and not having that he is taken on his profile is wrong. he has porn and thats all a man really needs you are not in the wrong here he is
January 24th, 2011 at 3:16 pm
Well, I think it's not healthy in a thing called relationship. I think he is showing some kind of dissatisfaction or frustration over you or something. He doesn't need that at all if he has a girlfriend.
January 26th, 2011 at 2:02 pm
Just keep complaining to him. Thats all women do anyway.
January 29th, 2011 at 10:33 am
It's ironic that you say that's what porn if for, because I was told there was no need to look at porn if I was interested in my woman. The dating sites, no. There is no need for him to be on there "just looking!" I wish my woman had your understanding.
January 30th, 2011 at 6:59 pm
I'm not quite sure what to do but my friend saw this show about this lady who found out her husband was doing that so she told him if you're gonna do that we should do it together. so just see what he does
February 1st, 2011 at 10:52 pm
By him checking out this dating site… That means he is not satisfied with his current situation…
Ask yourself, is he happy with your relationship?
February 3rd, 2011 at 2:28 am
he's cheating and lying to you what you need to do is break up with this guy he's a cheat
February 4th, 2011 at 1:58 am
on one hand, that is disrespectful to you because you are in a relationship, and his"jus looking" comment is ridiculous, but also, he mught say that you need to be secure in your relationship, and just because he is on these sites, doesnt mean he is gonna do anything but chat. the problem is you already spoke to him about and he isnt willing to stop for you, so now you need to figure out how much it really does bother you, enough to leave him?
February 5th, 2011 at 4:07 pm
Make sure he understands that he needs to listen to your needs just as you need to listen to his.
Also, make sure he knows the difference between needs and wants.
I was taught this and it's making my relationship better.
February 8th, 2011 at 7:23 pm
YES I do think there's something wrong with it IF there's a commitment involved. If he's dating you, then WHY would he need to continue to visit dating sites - HEEELLOOOO, he has a girlfriend.
I'd be upset too honey - it's just not right, and bottom line - what he's doing - is disrespectful to you…
Tell him how you feel - tell him either he dates you and forgoes the sex & dating sites or you're gone…you don't need or deserve this. You deserve a man who gives you his whole attention..
Take care sweetie, Marilyn
February 10th, 2011 at 12:58 pm
If youre not engaged he will do what he wants. If he wont stop and you hate it that badly, you can find someone who respects you more. It doesnt sound like real love on his part.
February 12th, 2011 at 5:22 am
you need to talk to him you know..open communication is the best in a relationship.if he doesnt want to part himself from those dating/sex sites…maybe you need to compromise with each other.tell him it hurts you most..and you are the real thing compared from those sites.so cheer up!
February 13th, 2011 at 9:50 am
He is probably not serious about the relationship you two are in. You need to tell him straight out if he wants to stay in the relationship you two are in then he needs to get off that site. He could be thinking that he could find someone better or he could like the attention he is getting on there. You should put yourself back on that site and see how he feels about it.
February 14th, 2011 at 10:12 pm
yes i think it wrong my hubby is doing this and does it when i am not around i have asked him about it but he lies about it what gets me is that the girls on the other end thinks hes single that piss me off even more so girl i know how u feel
good luck
February 17th, 2011 at 9:24 pm
if he still goes after you have told him how it makes you feel. then he has no respect for your feelings and you need to say good bye. it is an emotional affair… hurts like hell but if you cut it off now save yourself from further pain. If he is on those sights makes you wonder is he looking for the next victim after you toss him out… think about it if he is looking there what makes you think he hasn't met them in person…..
February 18th, 2011 at 1:43 am
yup .. its absolutely wrong to continue doing that while being in a serious relationship that you really care about you partner feeling and thoughts .. what you need to do is to take a serious issue about it ,, it isn't something that you will be upset about for a while then forget about and move on !! it threats your relationship .. he need to be more caring about you .. if he's not maybe you should think twice about how mush that man is committed to you ..
February 19th, 2011 at 7:30 pm
I have read that:
True Love is not possessive.
True loves gives Freedom. If your love is true he will leave all that bothers you & you will find him.
Be happy, open & frank. Don't fret. Don't Worry.
You need to handle this situation professionally with dexterity.
GOD BLESS YOU BOTH.!
February 22nd, 2011 at 3:58 pm
Ask him if he is happy with your relationship. If he said "yes" and then ask him why he needs to go on these sights. If he said "no" drop him and move on.
February 24th, 2011 at 5:57 pm
Yes – it’s wrong to continue with such activity. In a nutshell this is a small thing in comparison to life ups and downs. If he doesn’t respect how you on this, then there’s much more and bigger things he’s not going to respect. He’s selfish and for some reason finds more pleasure on the websites than what he have at home. I don’t encourage people to leave they’re mate, but I do highly recommend people to think bigger and broader. Look at themselves and what makes them happy, what they can and can’t tolerate, what’s acceptable and unacceptable. You must look at yourself and what pleases you and then you’ll have the answer to your question.
February 26th, 2011 at 7:36 am
well were both in the same situation, execpt my b/f hasn't told me about it i found out. i kinda asked him about it but he denies it, i can't tell him i know only cause the way i found out ( i checked his email) so atleast your b/f is telling you and not hiding it. i think if my b/f was a lil more honest i wanna say i wouldnt be that mad. cause i know about it. all i can say is that your lucky he was honest enough to tell you. i know it really sux but just talk to him. i hope the outcome is good good luck hun.