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DO YOU CONSIDER THIS CHEATING?
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migrane_on_a_stick asked:
We have been together for 1 year and 4 months. He deceived once and REALLY regretted it. Trust me on which one. Im perplexing to give credentials info since I hatred the girls which post '0Mg iS hE cHeATiN Bc hE KisSd Mi fRiENddd??' which give you no alternative info. Anyways, he unequivocally regretted cheating, but a couple of days ago I checked his email (to find a sent one and have certain it went to the right email address, not to snoop) and there were emails from fling.com, and adult sex dating site. He has an comment on there, he had for about 2 days prior to I found out. Its not unequivocally active at all, no cinema or info or flattering most anything. I done a feign comment and messaged him to see if he would answer back… would you cruise which as cheating? Or conspiring to cheat? I dont think he would again, but which unequivocally creates me insane he has this. I unequivocally love him, but I dont wish to get deceived on. Was messaging him as an additional chairman wrong in your eyes?
We have been together for 1 year and 4 months. He deceived once and REALLY regretted it. Trust me on which one. Im perplexing to give credentials info since I hatred the girls which post '0Mg iS hE cHeATiN Bc hE KisSd Mi fRiENddd??' which give you no alternative info. Anyways, he unequivocally regretted cheating, but a couple of days ago I checked his email (to find a sent one and have certain it went to the right email address, not to snoop) and there were emails from fling.com, and adult sex dating site. He has an comment on there, he had for about 2 days prior to I found out. Its not unequivocally active at all, no cinema or info or flattering most anything. I done a feign comment and messaged him to see if he would answer back… would you cruise which as cheating? Or conspiring to cheat? I dont think he would again, but which unequivocally creates me insane he has this. I unequivocally love him, but I dont wish to get deceived on. Was messaging him as an additional chairman wrong in your eyes?
27 Comments
September 19th, 2010 at 5:11 am
Can't blame you for checking but just because he answers
does not mean he would actually meet and cheat with this
fake girl…..He might just flirt with her a little…
September 20th, 2010 at 12:23 am
No…but don't make it a habit…then you will become paranoid.
September 21st, 2010 at 7:08 am
you really should try to catch him trying to hook up with fake you because there is a history of cheating. Lead him on, hell send him some fake pics and seduce him, just to see if you can catch him. But until he actually takes action, I don't think it's cheating, just proof that it could happen in the near future.
September 22nd, 2010 at 11:03 am
you doing right way if he try flirt at same time with u. That's suck of bf he is.
September 24th, 2010 at 10:14 pm
he is definitely thinking about cheating, and i think what you did was very very smart! just confront him, no sense letting it go on and giving him room to cheat.
September 26th, 2010 at 10:02 am
partly yes but the intention is to seek the truth.so don't worry you're not doing it to fool him but only to learn the truth.
September 26th, 2010 at 9:56 pm
I wouldn't really be worried about it, as it is simply a site. You are dating him, and he is 'yours' so to say. It made you feel horrible, but remember, it is just a site. He could have signed up for the site just to see something on it in particular. It is well known that many people masturbate to online porn, so that is all it may be. Relax, and only begin to get worried if he starts to act different than usual.
September 28th, 2010 at 4:47 am
I think messaging him was the exact thing to do. You may get the answer to you question but you have to keep up the ruse. Cheaters are almost always cheater and in my opinion, I think it is cheating if they are going to porn sites and dating sites. It means his mind is wondering. I bet he is pretty convincing in the apology department.
September 30th, 2010 at 11:51 pm
its called entrapment. Give him a break
October 3rd, 2010 at 8:19 pm
It is conspiring to cheat. Not really cheating. What you've got to consider though are the intentions. If his intention was to try this thing out then what is he doing away from the home. This is a young relationship. Let me tell you what's out there. My husband only has eyes for me. When a cute girl walks by he doesn't even glance. He has never cheated on me. I know this for a fact and I once asked him what he would do when if I got old, would he trade me in. He got a crazy look on his face and told me that he doesn't even think like that. Don't you want him to only see you as a sexual being? That's what love is. I wanna pop your guy in the nose.
October 4th, 2010 at 5:43 pm
uh ya… once a cheater always a cheater.
Get out before you're more emotionally attached - plus you seem way too young to be in such a long-term relationship.
Get out, find another guy to treat you right.
October 6th, 2010 at 8:49 pm
Hell yes it was wrong you set a trap and you should be ashemed of yourself if you don`t trust him dump him instead of playing these childish games..
October 7th, 2010 at 3:46 am
Yes, his using fling.com shows that he is still open to cheating.
Yes, you messaging him as if you were another person was dishonest.
(In fact, having sex outside of marriage is a bad idea for anyone.)
October 10th, 2010 at 1:01 am
Sounds like he's heading down that path again. What you did was to follow up a suspicion to see if it was true.
October 13th, 2010 at 8:08 am
your just trying to find out if he would cheat on you
many people do on line dating because they can show there hidden desires to anonymous people
i think you should keep talking to him and see if he would be able to meet you some were
proving that he would cheat on you
if he wont and only wants to talk to you on line he probably just wants to find someone he can talk more intimately to.
maybe if you find out what he likes and wants in a women you could suit yourself to be a little different or more expiremental
October 14th, 2010 at 5:21 pm
I don't think it was wrong to message him anonymously. Yes, sad to say, I think he's searching for another. It seems to me he expressed regrets to you for cheating the first time. If he really regretted doing it, is he trying to cheat again so he can regret cheating a second time?
October 17th, 2010 at 5:08 am
YES,IT WAS WRONG FOR WHAT YOU DID. IF YOU DONT
TRUST HIM THEN YOU SHOULD NOT BE WITH HIM. ONCE
A CHEATER ALWAY A CHEATER. BUT IF YOU REALLY WANT
TO KNOW THE DEAL. THEN ASK HIM WHY HE HAS THIS ON
HIS EMAIL. BUT JUST REMEMBER IF HE NOT THEN YOU MAY
BE IN TROUBLE BECAUSE HE MAY HAVE A PROBEM WITH
WHAT YOU DID.
October 18th, 2010 at 8:09 pm
no babe,you are doing just the right thing.he has done it before and he got caught so you really need to watchout dat is just perfect if i may say .you are just trying to save what is yours.
October 22nd, 2010 at 5:54 am
i dont think it was wrong to message him as another person-you have to know how far it has gotten, and you have a right to protect your feelings and relationship. since he only had it a few days before you saw it, probably not far, but 1.there are other sites like that he may be on that you didnt see, and 2.since you werent snooping (yeah, ok) you should ask him whats up. happily coupled people dont sign up for dating websites just for sh*ts and giggles. if it was he would have created the account WITH you to laugh at what kind of freaky desperate people would respond. talk to him, not yell or cry, or you will lose him. hes got something on his mind and he will either work it out with you or someone else.
October 22nd, 2010 at 2:54 pm
its really up to u actually.for me, its really nothing serious. you just want to check his honesty aite? but to tell the truth, what do u expect to get? what if he reply to that unknown person?is he then cheating? but if to think it all over again.there is no harm in replying an email to a friend whether he just knew her or not. would you also do the same? you better put urself in his position rather than think bad about him.what would you feel if he did the same to you?even though he did cheated on you once but like u said he had regretted it then why would you want to check him out again. obviously to me, you got trust problem towards him.trust is really important in relationship if there is no trust sooner or later,ur relationship wont last long. so ask yourself do you still trust him or not.if not and you still want the relationship find ways to work it out. gud luck!
October 25th, 2010 at 1:58 am
Well if he does this time again then you have no one to blame but your self.
October 28th, 2010 at 4:45 am
I don't think it is appropriate to have a dating site profile when in a relationship. He has already proven that he's a cheater and now is engaging in an activity that promotes and enables further cheating.
Whether what you did was right or wrong is debatable and in my opinion secondary to a much larger issue. If you have to play detective to ensure that he's not fooling around there isn't much trust in your relationship. Trust is a key element in any relationship, and if it isn't there, the relationship doesn't stand much of a chance.
October 31st, 2010 at 2:37 am
He seems to have cheater tendencies. I would not trust him as far as i could throw him. He has no business on sites like those if he's in a happy committed relationship. Rethink your thoughts of him regretting what he's done before. Remember my words "MEN LOVE SLOPPY" and make a lot of mistakes. Cheating and hitting should be unforgivable in certain situations. Your not married to him so find someone that respects you completely, not just when your around
November 2nd, 2010 at 11:59 am
If you have to ask, then I think it is, and I think you already knwo this and are looking for people to agree.
Good luck!
November 2nd, 2010 at 1:50 pm
That's really funny that hes doing the whole on line dating thing! sorry but if i was just checking an e-mail address and i found that, i would confront my boyfriend wetting myself. So what? even if you were snooping that's not the issue, you can use that line. Don't mess about making fake accounts on a dating thing that's not cheating its just all bad. Tell him that you think its pathetic, and deal with your boyfriend like a real person not on the net. If hes going to cheat on you hell do it no matter what you do. U cant stay if him cheating is you think about, i know, or you just accept it and move on. Maybe you should have a break, and decide if you can live like this
November 5th, 2010 at 9:12 pm
He has proved himself to be untrustworthy. I suggest that rather than regretting cheating, he regretted getting caught.
You don't trust him, you snooped and didn't like what you saw.What you did wasn't cheating, it was snooping to find out if someone who has cheated was up to his old tricks. You saw that he made an account but hadn't done much with it…yet.
Is this the kind of behavior you choose from a person you are in a relationship with? It is if you continue with him.
November 6th, 2010 at 12:34 pm
Well its not cheating but his intentions were not good. Stay single. No one can cheat on u then