IS MY CASUAL SEX PARTNER IN LOVE WITH ME? OR JUST CONFUSED?
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First of all, I'm 31 and select to have a infrequent sex partner at your convenience I do not have a beloved and I'm not violation any laws that's my choice. Sorry, only sleepy of all the visualisation on this site. This is the 2000s and I'm an adult.
My infrequent sex partner pronounced there's a lot I have which he likes which alternative girls do not have. But afterwards I told him about a integrate alternative guys I was dating. (Because he had done it transparent he didn't wish a girlfriend.) He seemed kind of sceptical and when I left he pronounced "Call me. Unless you bone those alternative guys, afterwards do not call me." Then I fell in love with a man I was dating, so I pennyless it off with the infrequent sex partner. I suspicion he would be dissapoint but he pronounced "I do not care. Sorry I'm not gonna skip anything."
But afterwards when it didn't work out with the man I fell in love with, the infrequent sex partner longed for to see me again as shortly as I told him I hadn't had sex with any one else. And he proposed behaving similar to he likes me a lot. Like being romantic, revelation me about his plans, articulate about the future, observant he hadn't been with any one else, asking if I had. What is going on?? He has done it transparent he doesn't wish a partner until he's in his 30s. He's 27. Thanks! We've well known each alternative roughly a year now.
11 Comments
October 14th, 2009 at 7:09 am
Red flag my friend! This casual sex partner of yours is totally immature.You are better off without him…First of all, the comments he has made. Aren't you hurt by them? They were disrespectful. I understand that there are no real "feelings" involved here, but that's NO excuse to treat you like that. If I were you…I would get away from this guy NOW.
October 16th, 2009 at 12:54 am
It seems pretty clear he has feelings for you, regardless of what he might have said in the past. Maybe he isn't being completely honest with himself if he is still telling you he doesn't want a girlfriend. Either that, or he is using you, but since you are okay with the casual sex part, he doesn't really have a reason to be that way.
October 17th, 2009 at 8:31 am
Of course he loves you. Where else could he get free sex and no commitments. I know it's the 2000's but face it, you're no different than a cheap whore..but at least she's making a living at it.
October 19th, 2009 at 10:03 am
Man that is not mature to have a sex partner like that!
technically you guys are boyfriend and girlfriend minus the outings and stuff.
This is prostitution without the payments from both of you guys lol!
Not judging but look at it like that………..
Anyway God designed it for marriage. Of course someone would have feelings if sex is involved.
Duh?
October 22nd, 2009 at 12:26 pm
This is why FWB doesn't work. Eventually someone gets feelings for the other. With intimate contact like that, it's certain. It's certainly your choice to make, but it shouldn't be a surprise that just sexual contact doesn't turn into something more.
October 25th, 2009 at 12:06 pm
You BOTH like each other so stop playing and get down to your true feelings.It may have started casual but you have grown fond of one another so sit down and talk…..Good luck
October 27th, 2009 at 5:33 pm
You are confused. If it wasn't for birth control pills, you would not be having so many relationships. Think about it…up until 40 years ago…promiscuous girls would be the worse a girl can be. Now a pill has changed that. Biologically men produce millions of sperm each day and try to spread it around as much as they can. Women produce one egg a month and are typically very picky about who gets to fertilize it…The egg rejects all other sperm once it has been fertilized. So what I am saying is that you are fighting nature with your view on sexuality. You will likley never know a normal relationship sad to say. You will wind up pretty twisted and if you do marry someone, it will end up in divorce because of the way you think. Your trashy…don't you get it? The casual guy was always hoping for you…he loves you…but he's also messed up if he accepts you. Take Care
October 30th, 2009 at 9:26 pm
OPEN YOUR EYES
He is interested in a relationship with you.
Why would he get jelous if you talked about other guy if that wasn't true.
You can see clearly what's going on, come on!!!
You don't have to ask this question, you have clearly described what you know is true.
How about you sit him down and discuss this with him, instead of asking all of us that don't know the whole story.
Good luck.
November 2nd, 2009 at 6:23 am
The lines between casual friends with benefits and lovers can easily get blurred and undefined. While you seem to be able to handle the situation, he seems to have lost perspective. I would leave this one alone from now on. He seems a bit too immature to handle this scene.
November 5th, 2009 at 2:37 am
Uh,, hello?? Hello? anybody home?? can you hear me now??
WOW girl,, you don't understand Men wortha krap.
(and he can't communicate wortha krap either)
"when I left he said "Call me. Unless you bone those other guys, then don't call me." Then I fell in love…" He is/has been very much interested in you thou he is/was "committment phobic" and/or was trying to play by the "casual sex partner" rules.
"" I thought he would be upset but he said "I don't care. Sorry I'm not gonna miss anything."" Your FB was slamming his emotional door as fast as he possibly could. Inside he was hurt,, but outside he was saying that so you would NOT see that he was hurt.
"Like being romantic, telling me about his plans, talking about the future, saying he hadn't been with anyone else, asking if I had. What is going on?? ." He is attempting (very poorly) at explaining what he want's from life and how he thinks/hopes you will find attractive and the two of you will mesh together.
"He has made it clear he doesn't want a girlfriend until he's in his 30s. He's 27" Is this just your idea of "clear"? Seeing's how you've missed his other communication attempts to this point, (granted he's lousy at truly expressing himself) How can you be sure he has made anything clear ??
Best suggestion?? Why don't the two of you actually set down and LEARN how to have a Meaningful, Open, honest discussion about both your and his expectations in this relationship ???
Nothing against sex,, but effective communication doesn't hurt either !!
November 8th, 2009 at 2:22 pm
Looks like he's still troubling you, so here is the facts-
Everyone gets confused when they have a casual sex partner unless they have no heart and have been having sex buddies for long periods of time kind of like porn stars.
It takes way too much effort to be accustomed to this lifestyle. You can find them in swinger personals and adult films. But any ordinary person will not get used to the fact that they have someone to have sex with just for fun. Kind of like your friend.
Of course he is just confused, he's falling in love with his f**k buddy and that my friend is confusion, it confuses the mind, and soul.
So that's why I advise against it.