Oct
05
VERY PERSONAL QUESTION ABOUT DATING/ SEX?
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Anonymous asked:
Okay, I essentially done an unknown comment to ask this subject since it is unequivocally personal and private. I'm a teenager and have been with my bf for about a year. It's a critical attribute but we have fun, too, and all about the attribute is great. We accept each others faults and flaws, we deeply love each alternative for the approach we are, we have each alternative happy, we get along with each others friends, we have a low trust, and we have been each others many appropriate friends. Our family groups get along, too. Well only recemtly, the dual of us motionless to move sex in to the life. It was a unequivocally unwavering and sensitive decision. We discussed the risks and alternative cons of it. We talked about what we would do for protection. We talked about since each of us longed for it to move it in to the attribute to have certain we were on the same page. And we are–neither of us longed for it since we felt vigour to do it, or since we were fearful of not gratifying each other. We both longed for it for the wish and the deeper tie it would move us. And do not get me wrong, my physique unequivocally did wish it. So we've been you do it and it has been great. Sometimes if we can't see each alternative for a prolonged time (we live kind of far apart) we do it over the phone. But today I here all over the headlines and see all over forums on websites adults articulate about teenagers carrying sex and you do "sexting" (which we do not technically do since I do not send bare cinema of myself over any kind of screen–computer or cell phone.) And they speak about how emotionally inconstant and confused these teenagers have been who have been you do it, and how the attribute they have with those partners have been not healthy, etc, etc. I am starting to feel unequivocally guilty about carrying sex since of the things adults contend about teenagers who do it. Do I unknowingly have which romantic unstability and difficulty which they speak about? Am I some-more grown up than many teenagers who have sex or am I only an additional one who thinks I know all but am unequivocally genuine and in an diseased teenager relationship? Please help.. any recommendation or difference of knowledge would be great. I do not wish to feel guilty anymore.
Okay, I essentially done an unknown comment to ask this subject since it is unequivocally personal and private. I'm a teenager and have been with my bf for about a year. It's a critical attribute but we have fun, too, and all about the attribute is great. We accept each others faults and flaws, we deeply love each alternative for the approach we are, we have each alternative happy, we get along with each others friends, we have a low trust, and we have been each others many appropriate friends. Our family groups get along, too. Well only recemtly, the dual of us motionless to move sex in to the life. It was a unequivocally unwavering and sensitive decision. We discussed the risks and alternative cons of it. We talked about what we would do for protection. We talked about since each of us longed for it to move it in to the attribute to have certain we were on the same page. And we are–neither of us longed for it since we felt vigour to do it, or since we were fearful of not gratifying each other. We both longed for it for the wish and the deeper tie it would move us. And do not get me wrong, my physique unequivocally did wish it. So we've been you do it and it has been great. Sometimes if we can't see each alternative for a prolonged time (we live kind of far apart) we do it over the phone. But today I here all over the headlines and see all over forums on websites adults articulate about teenagers carrying sex and you do "sexting" (which we do not technically do since I do not send bare cinema of myself over any kind of screen–computer or cell phone.) And they speak about how emotionally inconstant and confused these teenagers have been who have been you do it, and how the attribute they have with those partners have been not healthy, etc, etc. I am starting to feel unequivocally guilty about carrying sex since of the things adults contend about teenagers who do it. Do I unknowingly have which romantic unstability and difficulty which they speak about? Am I some-more grown up than many teenagers who have sex or am I only an additional one who thinks I know all but am unequivocally genuine and in an diseased teenager relationship? Please help.. any recommendation or difference of knowledge would be great. I do not wish to feel guilty anymore.
1 Comments
October 6th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
Absolutely not. Just the way you typed this is mature. Your spelling and pronunciation was top notch. The only thing you misspelled was recently & instability and the way you put it together was of a highly educated person, capital I's & all.
Also, the way you described yourselves, was unlike MOST people of your age on this site (or any site). Most people have bad grammar and horrible etiquette as far as leaning towards adulthood.
You had discussed it, weighed the good with the bad and a few other things. In fact, I would have to say the two of you are MORE mature than MOST adults in the whole wide world.
I wouldn't worry about it. You seem to be a very well-rounded individual and there is no reason for you to feel guilty. Sex is a very natural thing and these days, it's almost like it's odd *NOT* to do it. I would even venture to think that the adults you spoke of are not getting any at all and are jealous that kids can get it quicker than they can. Either that, or they are some sort of serious religious freaks that think humans should never do it at all. lol -These are the 2000's, NOT the 18th century. HA!
You two are a great asset to society. Especially for the fact that you went out of your way to get a separate account just for this question, shows that you have more couth than most people on the Internet.
Cyber sex is considered very safe and even preferred. I do not know where you got that 1st information, but I would disregard it and enjoy what you have with this fantastic boy of yours. I am a 39 year old straight male who stopped drinking 11 years ago next month. I love metal music and am a partier from the way-back.
I say keep doing what you're doing, cos it is NOT broken. Just-only be aware of birth control. Eventually, there could be a boo-boo that will cry for the first couple years and destroy your personal life for ever. Then the boo-boo WILL drain your resources until you are broke. Not to mention the grey hairs you'll get from worrying for the rest of existence and change EVERYTHING. But I'm sure you're aware of that. So, enjoy and don't worry so much. You're fine!