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I JUST FOUND MY FIANCE'S PROFILE ON A "DISCREET DATING SITE"?
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bossfemale asked:
I only found my fiance's form on an "adult sex finder" site. There is no design and he uses an alias, BUT, 2 months ago, I found the "alias' name and cue created down somewhere, and it has worried me ever since. 2 days ago, I only stumbled on to the site– put 2 and 2 together, and found his profile!! He's seeking for watchful sex partners!! I have been with him 2 years, not even tied together nonetheless and he's on the hunt!! My partner says I should have a fake profile, and set him up for a meeting.. of march when he thinks he's removing 2 blond bombshells, there I will be….. should I do this??? I'm not great at these things, could it backfire?
I only found my fiance's form on an "adult sex finder" site. There is no design and he uses an alias, BUT, 2 months ago, I found the "alias' name and cue created down somewhere, and it has worried me ever since. 2 days ago, I only stumbled on to the site– put 2 and 2 together, and found his profile!! He's seeking for watchful sex partners!! I have been with him 2 years, not even tied together nonetheless and he's on the hunt!! My partner says I should have a fake profile, and set him up for a meeting.. of march when he thinks he's removing 2 blond bombshells, there I will be….. should I do this??? I'm not great at these things, could it backfire?
35 Comments
July 28th, 2009 at 7:15 am
U do mean your ex fiance. Get rid of her before she kicks u away
July 29th, 2009 at 1:50 am
It might, but a better thing would be to confront him. However,m this would teach him something. try it.
August 1st, 2009 at 12:31 pm
I would do exactly what your friend suggests!!!!
August 1st, 2009 at 4:23 pm
Yeah that sounds like an awesome plan
August 2nd, 2009 at 2:09 am
I think you should, get your justice in a sortof way.
August 3rd, 2009 at 1:03 am
my husband did this last year and I sooooo wish I would have set up an account and get him caught in the act and have a friend right there to take pics or a video of it.
August 6th, 2009 at 1:14 am
Why play games? Confront him with what you have found out. When you do confront him, you will also find out he is a liar, because he will deny it.
August 6th, 2009 at 11:34 am
Sounds like a great plan..Do it for all the women that get shit on girl!
August 7th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Why the hell don't you just break up with him?
August 8th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
you should kill him/her…like right now
August 11th, 2009 at 3:36 pm
dump his ass
August 12th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
I think you should just ask him straight. A lot of people make profiles on dating/sex sites with the intention of never meeting them. For some people just the fantasy is enough for stimulation but they would never actually do anything about it. It depends on how you feel about this idea too. If you dont feel comfortable asking him then yes - make a profile of your own. I think I would.
August 14th, 2009 at 4:53 am
Wow.. I would be soooooo pissed! But yes, listen to your friend, make a profile, email back and forth for a few days, and then tell him to meet up somewhere. Be sure to ask him if hes in a relationship. Then, I woud meet him somewhere and totally bust his ass. How can you trust someone like this after something like this has happened?? I know I couldn't! Good luck!!!!
August 15th, 2009 at 4:25 pm
omg you should totally take your girl friend's advice. You should teach that jerk a lesson!!
August 15th, 2009 at 6:35 pm
I would do it and see if you can bust him.. Missy
August 18th, 2009 at 12:50 am
I agree with trying to meet him because you don't know for sure if he is even capable of cheating. All you know is he went to a website, maybe after a fight, who knows
August 19th, 2009 at 8:58 am
Definitely should! Bring a video tape recorder also just so you can see him when he knows hes screwed over and over and over again.
August 21st, 2009 at 9:38 am
Dump him! Don't play games. Just be glad you found out before you got married. Life is too short.
August 22nd, 2009 at 4:03 pm
I think you should do what she said and catch him… but you have to walk away in the end. This is not a man you can trust… what if he gets a disease from one of the women he is messing around with?? Do you want it?? What would he say RIGHT NOW if you asked him if he's cheating? "No" right? Well, he is a liar and you cannot trust him. This really sucks but it is not love. Goodluck I know you can find someone to love and honor you.
August 25th, 2009 at 9:27 pm
You "stumbled" up on a sex site? Did you stumble by not clicking off of it? Maybe you are a little curious yourself?
Maybe you should meet him with another woman and rock his world.
August 27th, 2009 at 4:27 pm
I think you need to talk to him NOW. Just the fact that you found his profile is bad enough for him. Don't play games (although that would be a satisfying way to catch the creep). Remember, you are the mature one who was ready to make a mature adult commitment and he's out playing sex games. Print out his profile and confront him. The reconsider the relationship. I personally would leave him. You are not married yet, so it is semi-easy to leave this guy behind.
August 29th, 2009 at 8:21 am
that's a good idea, i was listening to the radio and this lady did the same thing except that it was on myspace and the guy that talks on the radio was pretending that he is this one girl he met on line and it was being broadcasted and then he told him everything, that he was being played and then his gf started yelling at him, it mush have been really embarrassing
August 31st, 2009 at 9:30 am
I say do it.. because it would really only back fire on him.. He thinks he's getting away with something.. Show him he's not.. I cant stand it when a man cheats.. or a woman… Good luck to you and I hope you bust him good.. He deserves to be caught..
September 3rd, 2009 at 9:09 am
you should really gey him/her because i dont think thats rite to do so if i were you i will get him/her!~!!
September 6th, 2009 at 3:25 am
I would either just dump him…or if you are not completly sure it's his profile then set up a profile, get to know him via computer and talk sexually. If he reciprocates then tell him thru your fake profile to call you if he is interested in having sex. Then when he calls you on a number he does not know/recognize then he's busted and you should dump him. No questions asked…just leave him!
September 6th, 2009 at 6:11 pm
why not? maybe he'll just refuse to meet with the fake-you. honestly, from what you say about his profile, he's not exactly positioning himself to meet somebody! (or he really stinks at it!)
September 6th, 2009 at 10:48 pm
It sounds fun!!! Go ahead and do it!!! I wish I would be able to know what will the outcome be.
September 8th, 2009 at 7:50 pm
yeah do it and then when you meet him up at the place, confront him about it. may i suggest a male chastity device. google that. it should take care of it
September 11th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
As a bloke I thing he is a first class pratt. How would he feel if it was you on the site??? He would not like it would he. If you have the alias and password you could access his mailbox on the site and see what replies he has had and what messages he has sent.
On the face of it he is two timing you. With the evidence you have why not just confront him and see what he says. If he has nothing to hide he will let you see what is on his site won't he. Or you can get someone to contact him and arrange a meeting and you can be hidden somewhere watching.
If he is doing this then fiance or no faince you are heading for heartbreak unless it is something that he did on a drunken night out with his mates and they just use it for a laugh now and again.
Whatever, you need to know what is going on.
September 13th, 2009 at 7:19 pm
Ah man… I know someone that this happened to also! Look, forget it about going through the trouble of setting up a meeting…. you are right it might backfire and why go through such trouble. He's already busted… you really don't need to bust him with fanfare! Unless you're into drama… this is enough drama in itself.
Just print out his profile and hand it to him. Better yet… print it out and put it in the windshield of every single car in the lot that he works at including his! Incognito of course. ,
Good luck!
September 15th, 2009 at 10:39 am
lol i guess the only way it could back fire is if he took the bate. i think i would do it. but you have to be ready to tell him that it is over if he does say that he wants to meet you.just remember that you can not jump right into asking him to meet. you have to give it some time.get him interested. i hope that this friend of yours is willing to go with you. maybe you could even use her computer to talk with him on instant messenger. he will think you are out with her so he will be able to talk. in the mean time it will be you he is talking too. good luck and have fun!
September 18th, 2009 at 5:57 pm
Wow- this one's a doosie.
I think the first thing you have to do is ask yourself what you want to have happen from here on out. Do you want the relationship to continue? I think if you do, then you need to talk to him about it. If you want to begin your conversation about his behavior with a suprise meeting, that's one way to do it.
I think another way is to sit down at home with him and discuss it; just think about the kind of tone you want to set for the conversation.
The other thing to consider is what you expect from him. If you want the relationship to continue, what are you willing to tolerate, or participate in, and what kinds of behaviors are not going to be tolerated?
This is a conversation that needs to be had!! Even if you dump him, you should find out what is behind his use of the website.
He may have a profile up, and have no intention of actually using it (just the idea in it's self might be enough of a turn-on for now.) Or he may be screwing around on you before you even get married.
My reccomendation is to think long and hard about what you want the outcome to be of this situation, then figure out how to approach it from there.
I hope my advise helps, and good luck!
September 21st, 2009 at 5:05 am
Been in this situation so I understand all the feelings you must be having. The sad thing is that you are only boyfriend and girlfriend. You have no rights over him anymore then he has rights over you. Men, especially single ones look at pornsites. I don't think he will find a girlfriend or marriage partner there.
All you can do is get yourself out of the relationship and leave him to his hand, or decide to stay and realize what you will be up against. As far as your girlfriends idea, what if the shoes were on opposite feet. What if he set you up? How would you react? I don't believe he will be ashamed as much as angry and pissed. You are playing with fire and a keg of dynamite.
September 22nd, 2009 at 3:27 am
ask him about what types of kinky things he is into, and tell him you are interested in anything and everything. ask him about his fantasies and how often does he have sex and with how many people.
and then keep the chat logs…
you dont even need to meet with him, change the locks, and put his shite on the curb, and email him (with the chat logs)…
September 24th, 2009 at 5:35 pm
You "stumbled" up on a sex site? Did you stumble by not clicking off of it? Maybe you are a little curious yourself?
I agree with the previous poster; what were YOU doing at an adult sex finder site? Maybe you've been there before and he is trying to catch you?!
Don't act so innocent…