Jun
28
HE'S HAD 41 SEX PARTNERS - NEED ADVICE?
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elledriver80 asked:
I need recommendation from ADULT males, females. no unsteadiness please. i'm in my late 20s' - i'm a pure (I lived a easeful hold up okay, LOL) and this man is my initial genuine dating experience, bf -he's 25. He seems similar to a good man overall. But he discuss it me he has had 41 sex partners (14 only give him oral). Now in his invulnerability he's an on top of normal lookin' male, college educated, and lived in Vegas for roughly 3 years and had furious practice (including a 3some him and 2 females); he has been exam for STD's. He's been infallible far as I know . But he says I'm being astray by judging him for his past and alot of immature guys currently "sew their furious oats" in assorted ways. He says he has been staid down and wants to get tied together soon, and I would assimilate his past improved if I had some-more dating knowledge with guys, etc. I'm shaken if i should try and aspire to a prolonged tenure thing, lose virginity, and even wed him (not gettin' any younger)? Any recommendation on how to think about all this? TY.
** we live in NJ now. he has his own place, and I have mine.
I need recommendation from ADULT males, females. no unsteadiness please. i'm in my late 20s' - i'm a pure (I lived a easeful hold up okay, LOL) and this man is my initial genuine dating experience, bf -he's 25. He seems similar to a good man overall. But he discuss it me he has had 41 sex partners (14 only give him oral). Now in his invulnerability he's an on top of normal lookin' male, college educated, and lived in Vegas for roughly 3 years and had furious practice (including a 3some him and 2 females); he has been exam for STD's. He's been infallible far as I know . But he says I'm being astray by judging him for his past and alot of immature guys currently "sew their furious oats" in assorted ways. He says he has been staid down and wants to get tied together soon, and I would assimilate his past improved if I had some-more dating knowledge with guys, etc. I'm shaken if i should try and aspire to a prolonged tenure thing, lose virginity, and even wed him (not gettin' any younger)? Any recommendation on how to think about all this? TY.
** we live in NJ now. he has his own place, and I have mine.
6 Comments
June 28th, 2009 at 6:07 pm
ummmmmmmmm….wow. um break up before you catch something!
no um have you confronted him about it that you are not confortable with that?
June 29th, 2009 at 10:12 pm
ok girl well im younger dan u for like 3 years n well da first thing i would do is go wit him 2 get tested for an STD as akward dat would b but make sure before its 2 late cuz u never kno if he is telling da truth
July 2nd, 2009 at 11:06 am
.He's by his own admission already dumped 41 ed partners.What makes you think he'll treat you any different.
July 5th, 2009 at 1:24 am
I think if you decide to be intimate with him, that you always use protection, no matter what anyone tells you ALWAYS PROTECT YOURSELF!! I don't care if he told you he slept with 2 woman there are to many diseases going around just to take a chance on a kind face. My best advice to you is not to jump in a relationship quick with this guy. I dated a guy like him once time, and lets just say he showed me just how "changed" he was. take it slow. Don't always remind him of his past, but always be cautious that he may just jump back into that life style.
July 7th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
I'm sorry but I would have a really hard time trusting him after a few years into the relationship. He's used to getting around, he likes to sleep with different women for novelty's sake, and I wouldn't trust him to stop especially at the age of 25 when men have moderate to no experience while your guy has way too much. Ask yourself if you'll be able to trust him many years later.
July 8th, 2009 at 6:13 pm
How long ago was his last wild sex nights? Guys don't change over night, not even over a year. But its also true, you shouldn't be judgemental. Especially since your a virgin and don't have much expirience in the dating scene. And considering his age, he is still pretty young and might not be fully ready so settle down. You shouldn't jump three steps ahead. Try dating him for a while. NOT comited! Just get to know eachother without any labels. If you really feel a connection then you should pursue it further. And just because your dating him doesn't mean you have to have sex with him and give up your virginity. You probably feel intimidated about the number of sexual partners he's had. Don't be! Especially if they were one night stands! Or casual sex friends. Hope things work out for you!
~Goodluck!