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HE'S HAD 41 SEX PARTNERS — DOES THE NUMBER REALLY MATTER?
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elledriver80 asked:
I need recommendation from ADULT males, females. no unsteadiness please. i'm in my late 20s' - i'm a pure (I lived a easeful hold up okay, LOL) and this man is my initial genuine dating experience, bf -he's 26. He seems similar to a good man overall. i had to ask and he's had 41 sex partners (14 only give him oral), a little were strippers, one nite stands. he's an on top of normal lookin' male, college educated, and lived in Vegas for roughly 3 years and had furious practice (including a 3some him and 2 females); he has been exam for STD's. He's been infallible far as I know . But he says I'm being astray by judging him for his past and alot of immature guys currently "sew their furious oats" in assorted ways. He says he has been staid down and wants to get tied together soon, and I would assimilate his past improved if I had some-more dating knowledge with guys, etc. I'm shaken if i should try and aspire to a prolonged tenure thing, lose virginity, and even wed him (not gettin' any younger)? Any recommendation on how to think about all this? TY.
** he lost his decency when he was 14.
**it's been about 3 years given he was which furious with alot of girls.
KathieJo - um, i'm asking all of you b/c this is Y! answers…no alternative reason than that.
I need recommendation from ADULT males, females. no unsteadiness please. i'm in my late 20s' - i'm a pure (I lived a easeful hold up okay, LOL) and this man is my initial genuine dating experience, bf -he's 26. He seems similar to a good man overall. i had to ask and he's had 41 sex partners (14 only give him oral), a little were strippers, one nite stands. he's an on top of normal lookin' male, college educated, and lived in Vegas for roughly 3 years and had furious practice (including a 3some him and 2 females); he has been exam for STD's. He's been infallible far as I know . But he says I'm being astray by judging him for his past and alot of immature guys currently "sew their furious oats" in assorted ways. He says he has been staid down and wants to get tied together soon, and I would assimilate his past improved if I had some-more dating knowledge with guys, etc. I'm shaken if i should try and aspire to a prolonged tenure thing, lose virginity, and even wed him (not gettin' any younger)? Any recommendation on how to think about all this? TY.
** he lost his decency when he was 14.
**it's been about 3 years given he was which furious with alot of girls.
KathieJo - um, i'm asking all of you b/c this is Y! answers…no alternative reason than that.
9 Comments
May 13th, 2009 at 1:54 am
do yourself a favor and find someone with less partners. even a virgin for gods sake. im sorry but some men only like women bc they are virgins.
May 15th, 2009 at 9:53 am
Well if you have feelings for him and care then it shouldn't matter how many partners he had. Just as long he is clean. But don't feel you have to pursue a relationship with him b/c you wan't to get married desperatley.
May 18th, 2009 at 4:12 am
I think that it's okay.. Guys usually do have a lot more partners than women do. And you have to remember that was his past and he was younger and maybe he really is ready to settle down now. Hopefully he grew out of that stage :o)
May 19th, 2009 at 6:22 am
If you have to ask us, then you already know the answer. Find a man who you can grow and experience that part of life with…not somebody whose already been there and done that!
What would you say if you had a daughter ask you this question? kjl
May 20th, 2009 at 11:25 pm
Do what you want, but keep in mind having sex with him will be like you having sex with each of his 41 partners, and everyone they had sex with as well. Do the math that number could be in the thousands.
And if he counts it sounds to me like you will be just another number to him anyway.
May 21st, 2009 at 7:56 am
First I want to say, you shouldn't feel ashamed that you're a virgin, I commend you on that, whether you meant to save yourself or not. Next, how long have you been dating him? I suggest you wait 6 months before you decide if he is the one you want to lose your virginity too. Don't let him pressure you into anything. Also, don't be pressured into getting married. If it was meant to be, it will happen. I would suggest you date a couple years before even bringing up the subject of marriage. Over 55% of first time marriages result in divorce!
Now, since he has quite a past with girls, and sex, it would somewhat be unfair to judge him on that, since he has claimed he's moved on? Now I would be reluctant also, but its something that you look too, hope he moved on, and move on as well. Which would be another reason to date awhile before deciding anything with this guy.
May 22nd, 2009 at 3:56 pm
Your first time (or any time) is too important to share with someone who has so much baggage that you're just another suitcase. Do yourself a favor and patiently wait for someone else.
He'll come along when you least expect it, and you'll know he's the one because you won't seek our opinions.
Take care of you. You're worth it.
May 25th, 2009 at 9:19 am
41 sex partners at his age is ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's hard to turn your back on someone who you think might
care about you, or what ever the case is. Do yourself a BIG
favour and end it. It's more about moral issues. Your a virgin
and don't think that guys are all honest, men who play women
love to get a virgin. It's true. Men will go to any extreme to
get what they want sexually and in most cases they do not
stick around after. If the sex is great they may hang around
for awhile, but believe me, not all men are pigs, so find
yourself someone else who has a good track record with
women. Men who sleep with that many women don't feel
love for them, it's all just about the sex. They use alot of lines
and I've fallen for them to, but treat yourself with respect and
don't be fooled. Just forget this guy.
May 26th, 2009 at 2:58 am
I've known someone who was 23 and already had over 60 sex partners. She's well over 100 now! As for me… Igot up to 14 by age 23 and I'm at 19 now (30yo). I believe in saving myself now and intend to add only one more to that list. I suppose I would recommend thinking about it this way–Do you want him to teach you with his experience or do you want to learn together?