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IS IT OK TO HAVE A CASUAL SEXUAL PARTNER (BOTH CONSENTING DISEASE FREE ADULTS) WITH NO EMOTIONAL TIES?
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embryonicreject asked:
So my crony and I were deliberating the probability of apropos infrequent sex partners, given we're both in to the same things passionate and find each alternative attractive. We have been both legal-aged adults, tested and disease free, and have been formulation on regulating protection. We have been not meddlesome in dating each alternative or carrying a critical relationship, only hot, fun sex. I'm the womanlike counterpart, and I was unequivocally the one who brought the subject up. I'm not seeking for anything some-more critical and never devise on matrimony or children. What have been a little opinions on this out there?
So my crony and I were deliberating the probability of apropos infrequent sex partners, given we're both in to the same things passionate and find each alternative attractive. We have been both legal-aged adults, tested and disease free, and have been formulation on regulating protection. We have been not meddlesome in dating each alternative or carrying a critical relationship, only hot, fun sex. I'm the womanlike counterpart, and I was unequivocally the one who brought the subject up. I'm not seeking for anything some-more critical and never devise on matrimony or children. What have been a little opinions on this out there?
14 Comments
April 8th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
No harm, no foul.
have fun with it.
if you start falling, its time to stop.
April 10th, 2009 at 10:04 am
Will anyone be hurt by what you do? If the answer to that question is no, then do what you like.
April 13th, 2009 at 6:26 pm
It sounds like you've discussed it thoroughly, as long as you're both happy with the arrangement, and keep checking that you're both happy, do it.
In my experience it doesn't work out though…
April 16th, 2009 at 2:47 pm
Do I think it's a good idea? No. Many times one of the parties develops romantic feelings and ends up getting their feelings hurt. Sometimes they have feelings from the beginning. It just too easily leads to hurt feelings.
But it sounds like you've already made up your mind. Just keep an eye out to make sure neither one of you starts to fall for the other.
April 17th, 2009 at 4:41 pm
Look i have been in this situation before. This is my story: -
My best guy friend and i decided to have a bit of fun with no strings attached! We both didn't want anything serious but we had needs and we were both their. It was a lot of fun until he started to have feelings for me. It ruined our friendship big time. I eventually did find a boyfriend and when i stopped what was going on with my best friend he was heart broken. The truth is in the end i even started having feelings for him. So the moral of my story is that it's great to start off but in the end u need to be prepared of losing this friendship. People always become emotionally attached (i know right now you are thinking that it would never be the case for u and your friend but we thought that too)! I don't think its a good idea but if you want to take that risk go ahead! But be careful!
April 18th, 2009 at 10:47 am
Must you ask for opinions on this? Why? You were "discussing the possibility"? And you expect "hot, Fun sex"?
Go to it, but I will guess it will be fun but not too hot if you were "discussing" it.
April 21st, 2009 at 8:45 am
as long as you feel comfortable with this, i dont see why not.
but you already question this…. i got a feeling that you or him will fall in love and end up hurting…
it's not a must to love and get married… sometimes love is just love
April 23rd, 2009 at 8:54 am
(Well that's o.k for nympho people) because what i see is that you don't want to be tied down with relationship complications at the moment!? and you don't want to have sex with any person Like 1 night stands, so you will have 'casual sex' with the person you trust with! So by me thats all fine.
April 24th, 2009 at 12:16 am
It's not ok … but that's just me. My concern is that sex is so personal involving emotions … and someone's gonna get hurt… don't you see that possibility?
April 27th, 2009 at 6:10 am
You sound like a very level-headed young lady. If what you are telling me is true, then by all means… go ahead! However, watch out for pitfalls. There is the distinct possibility that one of you may begin to become emotionally attached after you get physical. For instance, let's say you spend a wonderful Friday night together having passionate sex. Will you be able to cope when he takes another woman out to dinner on Saturday night? Conversely, will HE be able to handle it if you begin dating someone else?
As long as you are both very clear on the rules, it should be alot of fun. One of those rules should include a pact to NEVER discuss other partners / dates, etc. Jealousy and hurt feelings could result. Tread lightly.
April 27th, 2009 at 3:35 pm
Eventually, one of you will want more. In most guy-girl friendships, one has a crush on the other. It is an ego booster. Sex isn't for fun. It is a way of expressing how you feel about the other person. For example, if you try to make plans to see him again, and he says he can't because he is going out with his girlfriend, you might feel hurt, or he might if you said that to him. This is why casual sex does not work for long.
April 29th, 2009 at 9:21 am
I had one of those(",)
Trust me i think there is nothing wrong with it..
Being both consenting, desease-free adults there is absulutely nothing wrong with it at all…
But in my experience , and im sure you know what im talking about since you are a woman too, I found it hard not to grow some kind of attachment to my bed-buddy.
In fact i have a kind of attachment with all my sexuall partners because for me, being a woman, there is also this emotional connection going on when indulging in sex…
Im not saying dont do it, by all means, do , but im just making you aware of a possible complication you might run into in the long term…
You may not love the person, but wil tend to get kind of jelous in a way and you will kind of get attached to this person emotionally..
But futher more than that, if you trust him have fun!!
May 1st, 2009 at 6:37 pm
There will be lots of people that will say that this is a bad idea, however, if both of you know the ground rules ahead of time and both agree on them there is nothing wrong with it. I have some female friends with this arrangement and it has not caused a problem. Good luck!!!
May 3rd, 2009 at 3:30 am
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